Cognitive Distortions - Part 8Don't scold yourself or others for falling short of your standards. Do you find yourself telling yourself, "I should've done this" or "I should've done that"? These type of words and the tone of them can create unnecessary frustration in your life. When you have goals, it's human to fall short at times. No one achieves everything they want. Take a closer look at your journey and all the knowledge, skills, and relationships you've gained. Don't you think all of them are wins? They are! Now, the same goes for how you judge others. Don't scold them for falling short of your standards. I repeat "your standards," which could be blown out of proportion (another cognitive...
Try tweaking your personal life and business to make a pivot. A couple of days ago, I walked around my neighborhood with my friend Claire Ann Niibu @bizcoachclaire who I've known since our time as students at Pearl City High School. She's a business coach who consults in person and offers online courses such as accounting at www.bizcoachclaire.com. We shared our latest happenings in our lives. "I feel like I reached my limits," I explained. Throughout 2020, I've been feeling so overwhelmed and worn down with my business projects and personal challenges. To top it off, like many of you, the Coronavirus has made things worse. How can I feel like this when I apply so many psychology, philosophy, and mindset...
Remember when we were young, dreaming of all the things we would do. We talked outside of my parents' house really late until the hidden sun's faint glow turned the skies dark blue. Now, years later, we can look back and smile for doing all the things we wanted to do. Ahead of us, bigger dreams, bigger goals. Let's keep pushing forward, through our ebbs and flow. For as long as we exist, we'll continue to grow. - poem, +positive masters, Jon Riki Karamatsu, 2/14/2020 - While talking with my good friend Brandon Mitsuda, I took a picture of this night rainbow, created by the misty white glow from the big moon in Waikele, Hawaii on Monday February 10, 2020....
I changed my mind regarding watching television shows and playing video games. If they bring joy into your life and help you to alleviate your stress and anxiety, go ahead and consume them in moderation to get that boost of energy that you need to keep working on your dream life. I hardly ever play video games and rarely watch television programs. I don't have any video games on my computer, nor do I have a game console at home. About five years ago, I deleted any video game from my smart phone. This all changed this past Saturday January 25, 2020 when my 9-year-old second cousin E showed me how much he loves the video game "The Battle Cats"...
Somewhere along our journey of life, we lost our innocence. If you can see the innocent child in the person who is hurting your feelings, you'll be more willing to forgive that person, like you would a child. Replace the angry face of the adult hurting your feelings with that of a child. This can change your mindset, a hack that can calm yourself from raging back. A child is learning and molding his/her character. As adults, we can continuously improve ourselves as well. When you remain calm with an unruly adult, other adults and children observing will remember this. They too will have to choose what kind of reputation they want from others - the dark side or the...
