Cognitive Distortions - Part 7Don't believe your distorted emotions are the truth. Don't believe your distorted emotions are the truth. For example, you make a mistake and tell yourself, "I feel like an idiot; therefore, I am an idiot." No you're not an idiot. You made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. In that case, everyone is an idiot. Please. That's simply not true. Let's say you broke up with your lover, and this is the third time you've had a serious relationship. You tell yourself, "Since this is my third break-up, no one will ever love me." Again, your emotions are grossly exaggerated. You have many potential partners out there, and if they had an opportunity to know you, many...
Try tweaking your personal life and business to make a pivot. A couple of days ago, I walked around my neighborhood with my friend Claire Ann Niibu @bizcoachclaire who I've known since our time as students at Pearl City High School. She's a business coach who consults in person and offers online courses such as accounting at www.bizcoachclaire.com. We shared our latest happenings in our lives. "I feel like I reached my limits," I explained. Throughout 2020, I've been feeling so overwhelmed and worn down with my business projects and personal challenges. To top it off, like many of you, the Coronavirus has made things worse. How can I feel like this when I apply so many psychology, philosophy, and mindset...
It always amazes me when people get upset by an obstacle, like when someone rejects their work or business proposal. They start blaming the messenger. They dumb down the system. They attack the other party that rejected them. This is wasted energy. They could use their precious energy for their next moves. Don't be surprised when something goes wrong because it will. Those who wish obstacles never get in their way will always be upset when they do. Those who wish everything is suppose to be perfect will always get upset for any imperfection that occurs. If they don't blame themselves for the obstacle, they blame others. No, not you, for you are ready for the good days and even more...
Embrace your weirdness. It makes you unique. Heck, it could make you a superstar! You may think something that you're passionate about is weird; however, that passion may be greatly valued by people. For example, you enjoy collecting Lego since you were a child, and you continue to do so well into your adult years. So you create copyright, videos, and audio about all the things you can build with Lego and provide great tips. People who love Lego from all over the world enjoy your content. Over time, you become a guru of Lego, and people are willing to buy products and services related to Lego from or through you. Maybe you have a weird imagination. You come up...
Cognitive Distortions - Part 6 Don't blow things up out of proportion or minimize them. When you fail, don't exaggerate your errors and imperfections. Don't blow them up way out of proportion because doing so will cause you unnecessary grief. Everyone makes mistakes. Failure plays a huge role in your learning process; however, you may fear it as you get older. Constantly remind yourself that failure is part of your growth. If you fall down, you can get back up again stronger by learning from your mistakes. When you tried to walk as baby, you would fall down often, sometimes getting injured; yet, you kept getting up and trying again until walking became second nature. Products, services, and philosophical and scientific...
